OpinionIf you could receive information from your future selves and avoid your mistakes before they happen, it'd be better to ignore the help and make them anyway to avoid missing out on the life you would have had.
      – Lee J Haywood, 2010-02-21 at 19:29:48   (12 comments)

On 2010-02-21 at 19:31:07, Lee J Haywood wrote...
I do think the temptation to avoid all major mistakes would be too great to ignore, but if you lived a life free from tragedy then you'd miss out on chance events and encounters which would otherwise shape your life. You might even become a lesser person through arrogance, knowing that nothing would go wrong.
On 2010-02-21 at 21:35:42, Thelevellers wrote...
I think I would agree. So far, I can;t think of many things that I would definitely class as a major mistake, of which no good came. The only one i can think of right now is not dumping my second girlfriend when I moved away - led to me really hurting her, instead of just a bit :(
On 2010-02-22 at 07:59:38, Lee J Haywood wrote...
It sounds like your relationship would have eventually failed even if you hadn't left her. Each relationship is good practice for the next time though - even if it's a complete failure, and even if you're betrayed. Perhaps it's possible to have just one relationship and know what you're doing, provided you get a good partner, but I doubt you'd really know what you're doing.
On 2010-02-23 at 09:18:33, Thelevellers wrote...
That's a good point. That relationship would definitely have ended - that was my point, I stayed with her when I should have ended it when I moved - but it could have ended sooner, and so been less painful for her (and me, but to a much lesser degree). I have since thought of another thing I might change, given the chance, and that is to have gone straight onto an apprenticeship from college! I met someone while on site last week (for half-term) who is 20, and already on £30,000+/year having started his apprenticeship at 16. I'm going to be 26 before I get there! Also, I would have avoided the debt from trying uni, it's not a huge amount, but added to the debt I'm incurring by living away from home to complete my first year it's not nice! The only problem with that is I wouldn't have met one of my now best mates, so even that change isn't all peachy!
On 2010-02-23 at 16:46:45, Lee J Haywood wrote...
Exactly... vast areas of your life are down to chance encounters and random events - good or bad - and if you 'improve' one part of your life it could send you down a 'bad' path that no advice from the future would help you with. But only potentially.
On 2010-02-23 at 21:34:23, BorgClown wrote...
I'd take the advice, literally. If something goes wrong, as long as I get to grow old, I can always travel back one one minute before, conference with my alter egos and correct it. I wouldn't mind being a puppet of myself.
On 2010-02-27 at 19:57:48, Lee J Haywood wrote...
The topic is about sending a message back, not your whole self. Of course if you avoided all your mistakes and missed out on chance encounters you'd have different chance encounters instead. The next question, though, is how far back would you be willing to send a message to correct your life? Back to your childhood or teenage years? Or just a day or two?
On 2010-03-03 at 03:58:53, BorgClown wrote...
I'd send a message to my 25 self or older, I don't think I would have the necessary foresight to make good use of it before 25. I would be probably more inclined to do the complete opposite, or even something random but closely related, just to mess with the timeline and myself.
On 2010-03-04 at 20:11:57, Lee J Haywood wrote...
@BorgClown: So basically you're saying that you'd be evil even to yourself. That's reactance - doing the exact opposite of what you're being pressured to do, as a way of regaining control. http://www.newscientist.com/article/mg19426032.200-the-word-reactance.html http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reactance_(psychology)
On 2010-03-06 at 06:41:26, BorgClown wrote...
Reactance, yep, that's me. Didn't know the name, but it's me alright. Over the years I've learned to not do the complete opposite consistently, that would defeat the goal of taking back control.
On 2010-03-08 at 21:35:33, Lee J Haywood wrote...
@BorgClown: If you liked that article, here's another one that's similarly interesting. http://www.newscientist.com/article/mg19225836.100-the-word-embarrassment.html
On 2010-03-10 at 04:48:02, BorgClown wrote...
That was embarrassing...