OpinionBeing intentionally insulting isn't the same as intending to cause offence.
      – Lee J Haywood, 2009-11-22 at 13:33:04   (18 comments)

On 2009-11-22 at 17:07:27, DigitalBoss wrote...
You assert so many of the views and opinions of a liberal big-government marxist/communist, but then get offensive about being labeled as a liberal big-government marxist/communist. Your defensiveness implies insecurity and doubt. Maybe this all stems from the fact that you have no core beliefs due to your godlessness.
On 2009-11-22 at 17:10:13, DigitalBoss wrote...
Maybe it is the fact that someone is actually calling you out on your opinions and beliefs is insulting and offending to you. You have no right to not be offended.
On 2009-11-23 at 00:04:18, BorgClown wrote...
I answered unsure because some people can be intentionally insulting and yet do it with good timing, so no offense is caused. Or they can do it with people who know their insulting ways are a form of familiarity and bonding. Insults in general are intended to cause offense, though.
On 2009-11-23 at 00:11:13, Lee J Haywood wrote...
@BorgClown: I think it's a question of how much you care about the person in question. If you say something you know to be insulting, it's highly unlike to be directed at someone you genuinely like. I regularly say things that are 'minor' insults, knowing that my words are witty but slightly hurtful or critical. I say them right in front of the person that they're aimed at, but with the excuse that what I'm saying is actually truthful. Maybe I'd be a slightly better person if I kept my humour to myself, but sometimes when a joke occurs to you it seems a shame not to use it.
On 2009-11-23 at 00:16:05, BorgClown wrote...
I doesn't gain you more friends when you are intentionally looking to offend and do it with a smile. Being ironical is a double-edged sword.
On 2009-11-23 at 00:20:26, Lee J Haywood wrote...
Indeed, but then if you don't care about someone then you're not going to cultivate a friendship with them anyway. There is the possibility that you may give someone you do like a bad impression of you though. On the other hand, I think it's generally better to gently insult someone to their face than to be truly horrible about them behind their back. In the latter case, you never know when they might hear about (or overhear) your nastiness and they may become resentful towards you without your knowing.
On 2009-11-23 at 00:24:03, BorgClown wrote...
It always amazes that people who fake friendship and back stab you really exist outside of soap operas. Had a few bad experiences with those.
On 2009-11-23 at 16:50:37, DigitalBoss wrote...
If it looks like a duck, and it walks like a duck, and it quacks like a duck, it is probably a duck.
On 2009-11-23 at 19:06:42, Lee J Haywood wrote...
@DigitalBoss: Unless it's a black swan. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hAP4O5Ewc6g
On 2009-11-23 at 21:03:40, BorgClown wrote...
Marxist black swans? The things one sees these days...
On 2009-11-24 at 00:47:22, DigitalBoss wrote...
That was cute!
On 2009-11-28 at 13:06:11, Thelevellers wrote...
With my friends, and the people I get on best with, it is standard practice to insult each other for comic effect, people who take offense to that kind of humour are best kept away from me! I am always shocked at my new(ish) job how much bitchy backstabbing is done. As soon as anyone leaves the table at lunch everyone seems to pull out their knives and get stuck in. At least it is so common that I think everyone knows that they are being bitched bout as soon as they leave the table... :S I'm just glad that I really couldn't care much less about what most of them think of me!
On 2009-11-28 at 17:54:39, BorgClown wrote...
@Thelevellers: Ah, my previous permanent job was like that, specially ay lunch. I concluded that my group had very little else to entertain with, too little non work-related topics at the table.
On 2009-11-28 at 21:53:28, Lee J Haywood wrote...
I didn't spend much time with my colleagues at the lunch table, but I did work in an office where backstabbing was constant - the moment someone walked out of the room there would be swearing at them, and name calling.
On 2009-11-29 at 13:03:25, BorgClown wrote...
Uhm, I very much like the new edit feature, but since it is not evident, What impedes me to ask your age and after all have answered, edit my comment to how many times did you fap last week? You can always change your answer accordingly, but it can become quite a silly game.
On 2009-11-29 at 15:08:09, Lee J Haywood wrote...
You cannot edit a comment once it has been read by anyone else (as with the recall on Dark), even a visitor who is not logged in. Consequently it's only useful when you're the only one around but would become entirely useless if there were many people using the site (particularly given the presence of the auto-refresh).
On 2009-11-30 at 01:01:08, BorgClown wrote...
I should have known that you had it covered somehow.
On 2009-11-30 at 01:04:00, BorgClown wrote...
It would be nice if you had a 30 second delay before the message was seen, like Digg, and also the option to delete the message. I really missed this feature, as I tend to rephrase my comments and inadvertently mangle them.