PollWhat is your dominant personality?
      – BorgClown, 2009-10-12 at 02:30:00   (7 comments)

On 2009-10-12 at 02:32:30, BorgClown wrote...
I'm strongly introverted, and I'm slightly more timid than self-reassured. Before I wanted to work down my timidness, but now I'm comfortable with it, the whole combination is what makes me myself.
On 2009-10-12 at 02:33:29, BorgClown wrote...
Before is as recent as 8 years ago.
On 2009-10-12 at 11:50:13, Lee J Haywood wrote...
I often try to tell people to avoid labelling themselves, especially as being 'shy'. You can be as you wish, if you make the effort, but as your poll suggests there's an underlying introversion/extroversion that stays the same. There's an interesting test where a group of introverts and a group of extroverts are given lemon juice. The extroverts expect to do well and the introverts are perhaps unsure, but it turns out that the extroverts cannot stand the strong, bitter taste whereas the introverts deal with it well. I guess the main difference lies in how well you deal with uncomfortable situations, though. Extroverts act as though nothing phases them (although I think in many cases they're simply good at masking uncertainty), whereas introverts can be extremely outgoing in familiar situations but seem socially awkward when dealing with dominant strangers.
On 2009-10-17 at 14:35:57, Thelevellers wrote...
I think it is exactly as the poll suggests, myself. I am normally a very introverted person, but when I'm in the mood I can be as extroverted as anyone else, however I usually feel the need to 'recharge my extrovert batteries', and feel happiest when in comfortable situations. I would say that I am good at doing what you attribute to extroverts, Lee: I can deal with uncomfortable situations pretty well, like at the start of my new job we were sent on a team building trip with ~200 complete unknowns - a LONG way out of my comfort zone, but dealt with it fine. As usual, it's not black and white at all! :)
On 2009-10-17 at 14:39:30, Lee J Haywood wrote...
I think most people can enter a room full of strangers and present themselves as confident or not. For the strangers, they will assume that you're as you appear - and you may find that if accept you as an extrovert you become one because you're bolstered by their acceptance. On the other hand, some people have such a negative self-view that they cannot appear confident even when one person shows genuine faith in them.
On 2009-10-17 at 14:49:55, Thelevellers wrote...
I'm finding it interesting at the moment, starting a whole new life. I know no-one in Coventry, the nearest friend is Melchior, about an hour's train away (let alone the trip into the train station!). At work I am entertained to see how I am perceived (or at least how I perceive I'm being perceived :P) by the others as they get to know me. I'm pretty immune to what most people call uncomfortable silences (I like them most of the time!), and am quite happy to sit and listen to every one else talk crap during tea breaks, so they are only slowly getting to know me, and I am really enjoying letting slip unexpected comments, and getting the most satisfying delayed laughs/reactions to my comments... I'll be sad when they've got to know me!!! :P (Kind of on topic, I had a point when I started, but was distracted by spotify discopnnecting in the middle and forgot it... Maybe you can see one?!?)
On 2009-10-17 at 15:43:10, Lee J Haywood wrote...
Just the way you dress has a huge impact on how people perceive you. I can walk around unshaven with a denim jacket on and people will avoid me, or I can walk around a hospital with a suit and tie on and the nurses will give me big smiles as though I'm a consultant. Technically I'm still the same person whether I shave or not, wear a denim jacket or a winter coat. It's terribly easy to trigger stereotypes, and first impressions can be made or broken based on simple things.