QuestionWhat matters most to you?
      – Baslisks, 2009-04-19 at 23:47:13   (25 comments)

On 2009-04-19 at 23:47:58, Baslisks wrote...
I been thinking a lot about that and been watching a lot of mindfuck movies. Just confusing myself but maybe out that confusion something clicks and happens.
On 2009-04-20 at 02:01:25, BorgClown wrote...
I'd say that what matters me most is my wife. Even more than my parents or siblings, because she is my family. My siblings are my parent's family. Maybe my response would be different if we had children.
On 2009-04-20 at 02:24:53, Baslisks wrote...
I would kill for that feeling.
On 2009-04-20 at 17:18:27, Lee J Haywood wrote...
Everyone tries to attain happiness, and have different ideas about how to do it. Often the thing that you thought would make you happy does so for a short time, and then you end up becoming desensitised by the lack of change. I think it's different with relationships to some extent, as another person is hopefully changing what they have to say and contribute over time. Having good friendship and support, and a lack of pain, is the most important thing - although it's also best to have enough money coming in to support yourself. I don't think there's any one thing that you could definitely say matters the most, unless you're in love perhaps. A lot of things contribute to your life, and they're all important to some extent.
On 2009-04-21 at 02:25:43, BorgClown wrote...
@Lee J Haywood: You're right. A loving couple will break up eventually if they suffer continual hardships for being together. I mean, like two students who elope without any way of supporting themselves. Love and sex are very important, but they're not enough by themselves. Also, even if you attain happiness, as Lee says, you will eventually get bored. When your wild happiness becomes a peaceful meadow, you'll miss the rough times. Then you must learn to be happy in different ways, or start over.
On 2009-04-24 at 11:05:05, Thelevellers wrote...
I don't feel particularly attached to anything at the moment - no women (the no cry bit is a lie! ;) ), and I feel pretty disconnected to my family. My friends are few and largely far between. The only constant thing that is always there for me at the moment is music - listening, playing, making, discussing, discovering, I love it all. Seems odd though, and a bit self obsessed, or just teen-angsty to say the music is the most important thing in my life. I'll just say 'family' then ;)
On 2009-04-27 at 09:46:11, Lee J Haywood wrote...
Ah, this was the article I read prior to my comments about no single thing making you happy permanently. Short but insightful. http://www.intent.com/blog/2009/04/17/ill-be-happy-when-im-thin
On 2009-04-27 at 17:15:27, Baslisks wrote...
@Thelevellers: we sound very very similar...
On 2009-04-27 at 17:16:00, Baslisks wrote...
@Lee J Haywood: Thats very true but I would also like something deeper then what I have and I feel it needs some sense of permanence. Maybe its just my childish ways growing up.
On 2009-04-28 at 17:55:33, George wrote...
Dunno really what matters most to me... possibly it changes as circumstances change. But certainly 'happyness' is up there. In Bob Dylan's first autobiography, he quotes his grandmother as saying (I'm paraphrasing, don't have the exact quote) that happiness is not on the road to anywhere. That happiness is the road.
On 2009-04-28 at 20:16:15, Baslisks wrote...
Learning that. Getting involved and such, all the stereotypical stuff. The more I do the happier I am.
On 2009-04-29 at 13:13:24, Thelevellers wrote...
Heh, I am struggling with the getting involved bit atm - I don't have any spare cash and am using it as an excuse to not do anything much... And I am really uninspired by finding work for a month or two before I move out, so more money isn't too likely... :s I am well aware I need to do stuff to get me outta the rut, but the stuff I feel like doing I don't have anyone to do with - Not too fussed about going to the park in the sunshine on my own, but just one extra person isn't enough, and tbh I don't really know more than that here! FAIL!
On 2009-04-29 at 18:12:12, Lee J Haywood wrote...
Since I joined a social club 7 months ago I've been able to go out over 2½ times a week on average (31 weekly meetings and 49 events). Even so, it's mostly weekend stuff and I end up walking around the parks by myself the rest of the time, which is dull. Personally I'd rather have just one other person to talk to on a regular basis, but I think it's best to have someone living with you who you can talk to when you come home - even in passing. I don't have that.
On 2009-04-29 at 21:25:14, Baslisks wrote...
bachelors of disscussionator...
On 2009-04-29 at 21:36:37, Lee J Haywood wrote...
Heh, it's definitely the case that bachelors have more time to spend using their computers.
On 2009-04-30 at 00:40:23, BorgClown wrote...
Don't forget the clowns! Clowns like their computers too.
On 2009-04-30 at 02:11:45, Baslisks wrote...
I should be out screwing bitches... Yeah bitches...
On 2009-05-01 at 00:30:22, Thelevellers wrote...
"Personally I'd rather have just one other person to talk to on a regular basis, but I think it's best to have someone living with you who you can talk to when you come home ‒ even in passing. I don't have that." Apart from the last sentance that's pretty much where I'm at - and I don't think my housemates fit the bill... As far as ladies go I would really be satisfied with one who was cool and actually turned up when she says (I almost have this now, except for the first part maybe, and the second part! The first part is an unknown til the second is fixed though! :P). @bas: You wanna stay away from cross species breeding - look what it's done for us til now: AIDS and Swine 'flu! ;-)
On 2009-05-01 at 17:20:22, Baslisks wrote...
So I went to a bar with a friend last night. I learned something. Pretty older women want to buy me alcohol and dance with me. I like that fact.
On 2009-05-01 at 17:50:35, Thelevellers wrote...
HA! Awesome... Yeah, my housemate reminded me of something I've been meaning to try all year - Salsa classes... ;-) I may have to give going to a bar for drinks and dances with pretty older women, though I may not have your charms Bas! :P
On 2009-05-01 at 19:14:52, Baslisks wrote...
I am just not the normal frat guy and I can have a decent chat about things deeper then bulls vs celts. Though it was a good game. I am actually not a frat man at all. I love being an independent.
On 2009-05-02 at 01:21:45, BorgClown wrote...
Older women are very confident and experienced, life-wise. You can learn a lot of life hanging out with a mature lady.
On 2009-05-02 at 18:06:27, Baslisks wrote...
That is true. Though I have dated older women and they have gone crazy.
On 2009-05-02 at 21:34:28, BorgClown wrote...
I guess they have little experience with psychos =P
On 2009-05-05 at 14:28:24, DigitalBoss wrote...
My freedom matters most to me. Every time I see our US Congress pass a law, I have less and less of it.