Special interestTips for life.
      – Baslisks, 2009-03-16 at 00:18:07   (41 comments)

On 2009-03-16 at 00:18:22, Baslisks wrote...
Never stand up in a canoe.
On 2009-03-16 at 11:25:21, Lee J Haywood wrote...
Plan ahead and be prepared? Question everything? It's surprisingly difficult to think of any specific tips, although it's handy to learn how to tie a shoelace so it won't come undone (takes 5 minutes to learn, then with regular use becomes second nature and quick to do)... http://www.shoe-lacing.com/shoelace/ianknot.htm
On 2009-03-16 at 12:18:31, Baslisks wrote...
this is exactly what I have needed all my life... I'm not even kidding. Shiiiiit its early....
On 2009-03-16 at 12:42:23, Thelevellers wrote...
Oooh, I like the shoe lace thing! :) And the canoe one ain't that great - if you raft up you can run along a line of em fine. S'good fun too! :)
On 2009-03-16 at 14:45:56, George wrote...
@Lee J Haywood: '..to learn how to tie a shoelace so it won't come undone.' How won't it come undone? I was going to bother to try and learn it, but at the bottom of the page, it says... 'The finished "Ian Knot" is identical to either the Standard Shoelace Knot or the Two Loop Shoelace Knot.' If I want my shoelace to not come undone, I just double knot it at the end, but then it's more hassle to undo.
On 2009-03-16 at 14:51:29, George wrote...
Beware lest you lose the substance by grasping at the shadow. (Aesop) Good judgment comes from experience, and experience comes from bad judgment. (Barry LePatner) Everything passes. Everything changes. Just do what you think you should do. (Bob Dylan) When you feel in your gut what you are and then dynamically pursue it - don't back down and don't give up - then you're going to mystify a lot of folks. (Bob Dylan) Computer Science is no more about computers than astronomy is about telescopes. (E. W. Dijkstra) [that one's not a tip for life, but I thought you guys might like it]
On 2009-03-16 at 18:12:32, Lee J Haywood wrote...
It doesn't come undone because it's a double loop - I don't know how best to describe it, but it really does work as I've been using it for a few years now. It really only takes 5 minutes to follow the instructions, so if you have laces that are likely to come undone give it a try and you'll notice the difference. When you pull the ends to undo the knot, it's a single action as for the basic knot you learn as a child - not as bad as having to undo 2 knots. Admittedly the site lists other knots, but I'm perfectly happy with the one I linked to. Originally I was only using it when going on a long walk, whereas now it's second nature and I always use the advanced knot without thinking.
On 2009-03-16 at 18:14:41, Baslisks wrote...
tried it today and its awesome. It works for my flimsy crappy never stay tied laces so I am very happy.
On 2009-03-16 at 19:20:02, Baslisks wrote...
If you are ever in St. Louis and on grand. If you are b the fox theater always stay on the left side of the road as people are always stopped to get the "best Steak Dinner" in the midwest for 5 bucks. Flashers are just as good as a parking space here. Also, connected if you want a cheap steak dinner you can get it right across from the Fox Theater, parking out front.
On 2009-03-17 at 02:06:03, BorgClown wrote...
The Ian knot also has the advantage of working with less shoelace length. Nevertheless, double or triple knots are awesome for boots.
On 2009-03-17 at 02:07:36, BorgClown wrote...
Oh, I forgot the tip for life: If you're looking for long-term relationship, never french kiss on your first date.
On 2009-03-17 at 03:01:46, Saywhatagain wrote...
"never french kiss on your first date." - is there something else? I am serious here - I always felt sex on the first date, and all that it involves , french kisses and all, - got an awful lot of crap out of the way. No more need to play all those sexual games ( but not all ), just relax, enjoy, and get to know each other with the first experience out of the way . If it isn't going to work out, no sense dwelling on incidentals. Most people can learn different sexual techniques, but sexual inclinations, your attitude about sexual mores, etc. change very little; and if they are not congruous in the beginning , they NEVER will be. Move on.
On 2009-03-17 at 06:17:44, Baslisks wrote...
Meh, I didn't kiss on my first date with my current girlfriend but the night we became official "boyfriend girlfriend" was a wild wild night...
On 2009-03-17 at 11:58:15, Thelevellers wrote...
I will have to confess here that I have NEVER been on a date with anyone but a current g/f... I have always 'slipped' into relationships with friends thus far. That method requires a kiss to get started... I should learn how to do the whole dating thing really, otherwise I'm gonna stay single for a while!
On 2009-03-17 at 12:55:13, Baslisks wrote...
Well, find someone pretty and interesting and ask them out. All it takes to date.
On 2009-03-17 at 13:18:20, Thelevellers wrote...
Heh, easy to say if you're a people person... As I have no job atm, and am not in any form of education, and dislike clubbing to the extreme, it means asking a complete stranger, which I couldn't do.
On 2009-03-17 at 14:24:35, Lee J Haywood wrote...
@Thelevellers: I don't date much either - it doesn't seem to make sense, as the expectations are too high too early and I think it's better to become friends first. I'd be too likely to reject someone (or have them reject me) if picking suitable dates because it ends up being shallow. The downside is that you need to meet women regularly and have them get a chance to know you for the non-dating method to work.
On 2009-03-17 at 15:20:48, Baslisks wrote...
Meh, its all a numbers game. What is the difference between superficiality and true deep conversation? Societal definitions of the two. All conversation isn't equal. The tiers of communication apply but who is to say you can't have a superficial conversation about ideas and an incredibly detailed talk on things?
On 2009-03-17 at 15:44:45, Thelevellers wrote...
That's a very good point Baslisks! I do like the friends first method, and it has meant that (for better and worse) I have only had 5 month+ relationships, and am still (just) on friendly talking terms with them all... However, as I think I may have mentioned, it also means that I can now say I have slept with all but one or two of my female friends, which isn't so good! As Lee says, you need to be meeting new women to make it work really... I guess I'll have to join a society or something?! I don't even know where to start! Lol... Looks like I need this discussion! ;-)
On 2009-03-17 at 16:12:19, Lee J Haywood wrote...
@Baslisks: The difference, to me at least, is that when you dive straight into a relationship you can end up self-censoring to protect the relationship, rather than being open about everything. If you're friends first, you get time to learn how to communicate and be open/honest about everything which puts you in a strong position for a healthier relationship. @Thelevellers: I joined a social club in the city back in September, but it's mostly for getting out of the house and meeting people. It's possible to meet up with them outside of the club events, but I haven't done so with anyone yet.
On 2009-03-17 at 16:23:28, Baslisks wrote...
I try to live the unobstructed life. I try to be truthful and honest with everyone. It works. Some people have really thin skin and it just hurts them till they realize what is happening and they fix things and they start getting honest. Just tell the truth with a smile.
On 2009-03-17 at 16:27:29, Lee J Haywood wrote...
I'm both honest and tactful, but I was thinking of relationships where communication hasn't been worked out and so you perceive the relationship as 'fragile'. It can be difficult to say what's on your mind because you think it will make things worse... and the relationship will simply fail if you don't say anything. At least if you know someone as a friend first you know you get along, and it's even better to know that it's not all about physical appearance. Oh, also I guess it depends on your situation - sometimes it's a bad time to get into a relationship and making friends is an ideal way to get someone's interest without committing to anything before you're ready yourself.
On 2009-03-19 at 06:14:47, BorgClown wrote...
@Saywhatagain: If you're looking for long-term relationship, getting to know your potential S.O. is better without sex. Sex will gradually fade away, but admiration and respect last forever. Sexing on the first date is too casual, almost frivolous.
On 2009-03-19 at 06:23:10, BorgClown wrote...
@Thelevellers: About meeting girls for dating, it's not that hard, and I completely agree with being friends first, that way you know them way better. Imagine an alcoholic, jobless, good-for-nothing guy. He's hopeless, right? He could join AA, maybe assist or subscribe to Internet support chatrooms, try to learn of other's experiences getting out of the hole. Sooner or later he will fins a suitable alcoholic, jobless, good-for-nothing girl, and heck, he might even progress and attract a girl just by his improvement. The quid is going where people like you might go, and relax knowing that you're just looking for friends. The right friendships will naturally become more intimate. Oh, and don't be impatient, things will come. Impatience harms your relaxed state of mind, patient you must be.
On 2009-03-19 at 13:46:17, Thelevellers wrote...
Patience smatiecne ;) I think my problem is that people like me don't like going places! :P Partly kidding, obviously, but atm the only place I go is the local climbing wall, and that's often empty (of girls at least) when I'm there... NM, as my announcement says, I have new places a people to go and meet in september, so if I'm THAT crap as not to find someone before, I should sort my self out then! :)
On 2009-03-19 at 16:00:00, Baslisks wrote...
@BorgClown: Mmmm, need to get back to my meditation practices but school has fucked them all up. @Thelevellers: I did some competition with climbing walls when I was 3 or 4 years younger and there was a smattering of adoring female fans to impress. Damn... I'd run up those things... I need to get some more free time.
On 2009-03-19 at 16:43:54, Thelevellers wrote...
I did aquire a friendly female admirer a couple of weeks back, but only saw the once, and I think she was a bit young... Legal, but I have morals! ;-) Climbing is awesome fun, by far my favourite way to keep/stay fit atm. Biking is good, but my bike needs much money spent on it to be rideable right now... :(
On 2009-03-19 at 16:51:35, Baslisks wrote...
define young? I've only really flirted and dated older never younger but now that the girls my age have fully developed.... I am taking a liking to them more.
On 2009-03-19 at 21:21:47, Thelevellers wrote...
Well I would avoid anyone younger than 18, and 18 is pushing it a little... There's a lot of difference between 18 and 22! Older girls have always been cooler up until the past couple of years... But then I stopped paying attention about 3.5 years ago!
On 2009-03-21 at 02:19:11, Thelevellers wrote...
Hee... I'm a little drunk right now... But am happy I have a female friend who wants to learn guitar (which I can teach) and climbing (which I know the basics plus a little) Woot. Her friend was cool too... I like house parties... heh I like being drunk too... :D
On 2009-03-21 at 05:03:56, Baslisks wrote...
I have to say I have never drank... Teaching people things can actually make you learn more about the subject plus the female attention never hurt anyone.
On 2009-03-23 at 16:50:37, Baslisks wrote...
I need help on organizing my life. Any tips from you highly productive people of discussionator?
On 2009-03-23 at 20:58:14, Lee J Haywood wrote...
What is it that you need to organise, specifically? Keeping track of things, getting things done, or making decisions?
On 2009-03-23 at 23:38:48, Thelevellers wrote...
Heh, don't ask me! I took a year to go from thinking 'I should get an apprenticeship' to getting one... :S
On 2009-03-24 at 00:50:44, Baslisks wrote...
Well keeping myself to a schedule.
On 2009-03-24 at 02:39:16, BorgClown wrote...
When time is very scarce, instead of doing things less and less I opt to not do them at all. Not washing the car, not seeing TV, not traveling, no Internet, etc. There are indispensable things that cannot be left undone, and doing nil makes them stand out so you can refocus. After your enlightenment you can continue your usual routine, but it will not be the same for a while.
On 2009-03-24 at 03:25:26, Baslisks wrote...
Damn... yeah in reality I need that...
On 2009-03-24 at 04:07:03, Baslisks wrote...
facebook is gone!
On 2009-03-24 at 09:57:34, Lee J Haywood wrote...
Perhaps you could try writing down your tasks for the next day (on paper), specifying the times at which each one needs to be started/finished. You can include leisure activities, meals, etc. also. When you're following the plan you can see where you are in the day, what you've achieved so far and what is left to go.
On 2009-03-26 at 06:19:17, BorgClown wrote...
Mmmh, doing nothing...
On 2009-10-27 at 14:10:26, Lee J Haywood wrote...
This may not be life-changing, but about 15 years ago I saw this 10-part series of exercises broadcast. It's a series where you get fit by standing still in 5 poses, in progression, building up your stamina from 5 minutes up to 25 minutes. I like the way you get physical benefit without having to throw yourself around. http://www.youtube.com/user/StandStillBeFit