SurveyWould you avoid breaking up an existing relationship for a chance at one with someone else who seems better?
      – Lee J Haywood, 2008-09-09 at 20:41:38   (16 comments)

On 2008-09-09 at 21:23:45, Nevermore wrote...
If I find myself seriously considering that, it's a clear sign that I don't really value the current relationship that much anyway. So I guess I would.
On 2008-09-09 at 21:24:28, Nevermore wrote...
I mean, I guess I wouldn't...I read the question wrong.
On 2008-09-09 at 21:26:32, Lee J Haywood wrote...
Sorry, it was dumb to have the word 'avoid' in there. What if you do value the current relationship, but then you meet someone who seems really cool and want to be with them too?
On 2008-09-09 at 21:31:34, Nevermore wrote...
Probably not if I valued the current relationship and if I was still in love with my partner. But it's hard to say for sure. I haven't been in that situation. I've been in a similar situation, but it made me realize I was really bored with the relationship I was in and had begun to see my partner as a friend more than a lover.
On 2008-09-09 at 21:34:02, Nevermore wrote...
and I definitely wouldn't try carrying on a relationship with both.
On 2008-09-09 at 21:36:27, Lee J Haywood wrote...
I suppose you have to use the situation as an opportunity to re-evaluate everything and decide if the current relationship is working or not. It's a horrible situation to be in, and would feel like it's tearing you apart.
On 2008-09-09 at 21:37:46, Nevermore wrote...
@Lee J Haywood: is this somehow relevant to your situation, lee?
On 2008-09-09 at 21:38:52, Lee J Haywood wrote...
I knew someone in this situation, but they chose to stick with their current relationship.
On 2008-09-09 at 21:41:27, Nevermore wrote...
do you think they did the right thing?
On 2008-09-09 at 21:43:48, Lee J Haywood wrote...
It's impossible to say - they had to think about it for many months to decide, and had to take everything into account. Even if I wanted it to go the other way, I didn't want to interfere because perhaps the existing relationship could be successful and the new one might not have gone anywhere.
On 2008-09-09 at 21:45:47, BorgClown wrote...
Relations mature, if you're not careful you might end breaking all your relations instead of letting them progress.
On 2008-09-09 at 21:49:33, Lee J Haywood wrote...
Damn, I just realised that even I voted the wrong way because I misread the title that I wrote. (-: Rudy voted no - I wonder if he meant yes?
On 2008-09-09 at 22:00:15, Beeba wrote...
why choose? the more the merrier.
On 2008-09-09 at 22:01:50, RudystillRules wrote...
@Beeba: Plus +5 discussionator points.
On 2008-09-09 at 23:23:19, Baslisks wrote...
I've been broken up for that way. It sucks.
On 2008-09-11 at 02:24:13, Scarletxstarlet wrote...
If my existing relationship was not going well, I would do so. But I would not "trade up" if my current partner was treating me well and we were in love.